Avoiding Divorce

    Divorce is often referred to as a painful if not messy and expensive way to end marriage. It has a way of affecting not just the spouses but the children as well. It is caused by many different things. Oftentimes, discontent between couples may have been ignored for years, eventually building up and resulting to a decision to completely end the marriage

Taking identifiable actions means considering where you are in your marriage and how you got there. You may use this as an opportunity for growth and change rather to let it make the marriage spin out of control.

A37 3    First, it may sound otherwise but do not make any coercive actions especially arguments to browbeat your partner into staying in the marriage. This may go against your natural instinct during situations like this. However, doing so may push them farther away. Instead, try to understand and offer your presence for your partner and accept their reasons for needing to leave.

Secondly, be independent. Be active and do things that bring you joy, strength, and excitement. Stay healthy and have a positive outlook in life. It will radiate in you and you would look like it. Moreover, such positive outlook in life would also attract a positive atmosphere which once attracted your partner to you.

Third, do put your best in everything you do. Try to turn every opportunity into a challenge to make a good impression. Do not depend or even act as if your life is entirely on your spouse’s hand. Having this unhealthy sense of power in one party is not good for your relationship.

Fourth, do not allow yourself to be pulled into an argument with your partner. Acknowledge his or her feelings and the reason they feel the same. However, do not just concede to what they want. Each person sees things differently and there is nothing you can do about that. On the other hand, try to find opportunities where conversations would be on a more positive note.

Aside from those mentioned above, factors that may affect a relationship and the possibility of divorce may be the family income, concern for appearance and earnings, honeymoon and length of time dating. These factors are often causes of arguments and misunderstandings among couples. Therefore, it is important for the couple that they may give time and effort on self-improvement and understanding their family’s needs.

Put your heart into developing a game plan and sticking with. Never give up. Recapturing the romance and intimacy you thought you lost in your marriage is possible. Although both men and women have a different sense as to what romance is, it is possible for spouses to rekindle their relationship. There are many opportunities every day to make deposits into the Love Bank. Old memories may have faded, but new and better memories could replace them. Also, you may recapture the old memories you have. Think of the things that made you both happy; moments that reminded you why you started your relationship in the first place. And one by one, you can pull out the weeds in your relationship and start planting new seeds of happy memories.

How a Happy Marriage Affects your Health?

People do everything to get healthy. Exercise, supplements, medications, diet and relaxation have all been known as the ways to attain better health. It is a surprise for many that one of the most effective ways to get healthy is to have a happy marriage. For the past 35 years, researches have proven that married people are healthier than the unmarried ones. Experts believe that the effects of a happy marriage are very significant. One sociologist thinks that it has more benefits in comparison to giving up smoking.

Recent studies show that happily married men and women are:

•    More likely to have better physical and mental health
•    More likely to have a longer life
•    Can easily recover from illnesses
•    Take better care of themselves

Healthy Physically

Married individuals live longer because they tend to have better physical health. This does not only apply to minor diseases like colds, headaches, and flu, but also to serious health concerns, such as heart disease, cancer and heart attacks. Better physical health can also help them quickly recover from surgery.

Experts analyzing marital health in 17 different nations found out that married individuals are more likely to recognize symptoms, avoid dangerous behavior, eat a healthier diet, recover quicker and seek medical treatment.

One important reason why marriage has powerful health benefits is that married couples are fully aware of and are affected by their spouse’s decisions. In a sense, they have a significant vested interest in taking care of each other and promote healthy choices and behavior.

Men usually restrict themselves from several self-destructive patterns a year before the wedding date. Women tend to stop drinking, smoking, and taking risks unnecessarily. They are also keen on improving their family’s diet.

The emotional support that you get from your spouse can help you recover from both minor and major illnesses and help you deal with chronic diseases. Some research also discovered that marital relationships can boost the immune system, thus lowering your chances of getting sick.

Longer Life

The connection between marriage and decreased mortality has been established in several studies done in different cultures. As a result of being healthy physically, mentally and emotionally, you are less likely to get sick and so you will have a longer life.

The health benefits that married individuals enjoy do not exist in other forms of intimate relationships. Singles with intimate relationships will not enjoy the same health benefits that married people enjoy. Cohabiting couples do not share the mechanisms that make a married individual live longer and healthier.

Cohabitation is negatively associated with both health and financial satisfaction. Studies reveal that cohabiters have poorer psychological well-being than married individuals, which suggests that the protection effects of marriage are not manifested to cohabitation.


The study is clear, consistent and diverse. Those who are married are more likely to live longer, are healthier both emotionally and physically and are happier. Keep in mind that these benefits can be enjoyed only by married people and not by cohabiting couples. Studies about how a happy marriage affects your health are conducted in different parts of the world to prove its claim.