Sixty-four percent of women who have experienced domestic violence have heightened tendencies of having mental illness. Forty-eight percent underwent depression and 18 percent took their own lives. Some men who caused such irreversible experiences were able to excuse themselves from the punishments by claiming that the violence was due to mental illness or the influence of alcohol.
Are these claims right? What are the real causes of domestic violence?
Research shows that domestic violence is a result of the urge to be dominant and gain total control over one’s partner. This behavior is due to the sense of entitlement and male privilege given to them by the spreading inequality. More countries all over the world look up to men as the dominant ones. They are given the headship in families, national government, and religious groups. However, there can still be other causes.
A person’s biological makeup can influence the way he acts. It is believed that some people who practiced violence had changes in some of their brain regions because of trauma. Some of them had severe head injuries that give them a hard time dealing with impulsivity.
Other cases are caused by early childhood experiences. One study says that those who had histories of being battered as a child have higher chances of growing into hostile, anxious, insecure, and dependent adults. They are unable to develop trust or control their emotions, resulting to violence. This also has something to do with social learning and development. Even when they are not the ones being battered when they were younger, they still gain the tendency to be violent when they grow up if they develop the thinking that violence is a way to resolve a conflict. In this case, when a child often sees his father beating his mother up, he is more likely to practice domestic violence in the future.
A theory on the causes of domestic violence says that it can be a result of bad family interactions. Husband and wives do not talk about matters properly, leading to misunderstandings and mistrust.
While alcohol, drug abuse, and mental illnesses are often used as excuses, they are not valid. It was discovered that people influenced by alcohol or mental illnesses rarely have such tendency to abuse people physically. If they do, the situation should be analyzed. If they are selective on people they abuse — meaning, they only hurt family members or people who are close to them — it means that violence is their personal choice rather than the effect of a mental illness. If they abuse random people then it could be because of the mental illness.
So the question is: Are abusers out of control?
Abusers are aware of their actions. They keep in mind that they do those things to get what they want. This simply means they are in total control and not out of control.
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